Have you ever gazed at a child with admiration while they run around completely comfortable in their own skin? They never stop to question if they should hold their tummy in, or hide their body, they simply feel free with how and who they are. Oh the innocence of prepubescent youth!
As girls begin to develop, we begin the life long struggle of self-image and body-image. While we are all born loving our body unconditionally, as time goes on we begin to develop our human ego and with it arises the perils of ‘the body beautiful’.
According to Erik Erikson, our ‘ego identity is developed by human interaction and how an individual becomes more conscious of themselves and their surroundings.’ It is at this stage we begin to compare ourselves to others.
By the time we reach our teens our body is no longer something we love unconditionally, is can become the subject of harsh criticism and an object we judge rather than love.
Have you ever looked back at an old photo of yourself from 10, 20, 30...
Does it feel like you’re eating close to nothing at times, yet the numbers on the scale just keep getting bigger?
Has middle-aged brain fog kicked in causing you to crave the ‘wrong’ foods for energy?
And what about your waist line, does it feel like it’s taken on a life of its own?
You’re not alone!
Approaching and transitioning through menopause can be a roller coaster, but it doesn’t have to be!
After 20 years of weight loss coaching, I am here to let you know there is a simple solution for you that has worked for every one of my clients! There are no gimmicks, no pills or no magic potions! It’s all based on science and can literally reverse your biological age, stimulate natural weight loss and reshape your body like NO other eating plan.
It’s called Nutritional Ketosis, and for the past 2 decades I’ve helped thousands of women in over 47 countries just like you, lose weight and keep it off giving them the secret to feeling young forever, and I’m here to help you too!
Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of losing weight and gaining weight? Has this spanned decades or your entire lifetime?
I call this start/stop dieting and some refer to it as yo-yo dieting (although yo-yo dieting could also be a cycle of losing 20 lb then gaining 25lb), but whatever you call it, it is frustrating! The energy it takes to be constantly fixated on your physical body and its appearance is just exhausting.
What causes start/stop dieting is an internal conflict between success and self-sabotage. A start/stop dieter always starts out with the best intentions, but within a very short amount of time something is triggered inside them that seems to work against their desire for success.
This self-saboteur, which I refer to in my programme as the inner critic, knows just when to appear, during the moments of doubt, or temptation, or weakness.
It could be during one the natural and healthy weight loss plateaus that occur when we diet. For a stop/start dieter, once the scales st...
After nearly 23 years as a weight loss coach I have heard every reason why women gain weight, but if we look beyond the superficial, it always comes back to how we feel about ourselves, our life, and our level of self-love. I shared this with you in this weeks vlog, if you missed it you can view it here.
If you truly love yourself, you don’t self-sabotage, or eat food you know is bad for you, so the issue is never with ‘food’, food is just a manifestation of other issues in our life. Through healing our life we can solve our weight problems for good.
I want you to ask yourself a question: do you want to feel good about yourself, would you like to even love yourself? Do you want to feel worthy of an amazing life? If you struggled to answer yes it is time to explore why.
Reflecting in ‘why’ is a very powerful exercise. I asked you write down 20 compelling reasons for losing weight earlier in this series so if you haven’t done so try that now. Then I asked you to write down 20 compellin...
Weight can be the number one challenge many women face over their lifetime and there is a reason for that. You can walk away from any other addiction, but you can’t walk away from food. I spoke about this in my last vlog, if you missed it you can view it here.
An alcoholic can stop drinking, I’m sure it is not easy, but they can have that last drink and never touch it again, but we have to eat to survive, so we can’t just avoid food as a strategy for weight loss.
What it comes down to is that how we feel about ourselves is reflected in our food choices. The more we love ourselves the more we take care of ourselves, and therefore the better quality food we choose to put in our body. So diet and weight loss is not about food, it is about the relationship we have with ourselves.
So this week I want you to start asking ‘how much do I really value myself? If in this moment, I am choosing to put something in my body that I know is bad for me, why is it ok? Why am I allowing myself to do this...
In my recent vlog I spoke about the payoffs for not losing weight, if you missed it you can view it here.
While there’s a payoff to losing weight and feeling great, there are also payoffs for staying overweight. While this may seem counterintuitive at first, when we stop to ponder this for a while we can begin to see exactly why not changing is easier than changing. By going deeper still, we begin to see there many reasons for not changing, not losing weight and staying exactly where we are and these are why our subconscious mind derails our weight loss efforts.
The truth is there are many payoffs to being overweight, and if you find it hard to start or stick with a diet, then you are experiencing that first hand.
You may feel fatigued, bloated and experience great frustration trying to find clothes that ‘look good’, and you may not be feeling the best about yourself, which can affect many areas of your life, so you may be thinking ‘how could there be a payoff for that?’ Yet not chang...
Over the last two weeks, I shared with you two tips to kick-start your weight loss, but they are so important that I wanted to summarize these again for you and explain exactly why they are so important. I believe that without following this advice, no weight loss will be lasting. After 2 decades as a weight loss coach and literally thousands of clients, I know intimately what it takes, so please don’t start another diet until you do the thinking first! If you missed this weeks vlog on this subject you can view it here.
Getting ready to begin any life change takes some physical preparation sure, but your focus should first be on the mental and emotional preparation. If the change you want to make is around dieting and losing weight then the non- physical preparation is vital!
We often try to ‘force’ ourselves into a diet because we are frustrated or depressed that our clothes no longer fit, but dieting is always an attempt to increase our self-love and feel ‘better’ about ourselves.
Weight loss is only half the battle, in fact I’d say it’s the easy part, keeping it off is something entirely different and it takes a lot more than just making healthy food choices, it takes healthy mind choices too. Unless we learn how to keep the weight off, it just creeps back on and before you know it you’re up three dress sizes and wondering what happened?
In the last few weeks I have covered how thinking yourself slim is crucial to stay on track if you want to lose weight and now I am going to share some secrets to ensure that once you reach your goal weight, it stays off.
It has to do with understanding why we set goals, why you wanted to lose weight in the first place. We don’t set goals to attain the goal itself, we actually set goals to attain the state, or emotion of how we will ‘feel’ once we attain that goal. That feeling, or state, or emotion, regardless of the goal, is always about wanting to love ourselves our life more deeply.
I believe we are an outer expression of what’s going on inside; if we are stressed it shows, if we overeat, it shows, if we don’t exercise, it shows, if we are a happy person who laughs a lot, it shows. How we live our lives ultimately shows up as a physical expression of who we are.
If you think you should lose weight, or should get healthy, as opposed to I must lose weight, and I must get healthy, is the difference between wanting to do something and having to do something.
Shoulds exist in a ‘grey area’, where intellectually you ‘know it’s the right thing to do’, but you still have a profound desire to do the exact opposite! In other words, thinking you ‘should lose weight’, means you are still undecided. Let’s explore an example of how mind/body alignment works in the real world.
Remember a time when you have been tempted to go off your diet plan. It might have been a birthday party you could not avoid when you were on a diet. Once they cut t...
As a weight loss coach, I’m often asked what my number one piece of advice is for people starting a weight loss journey.
My advice is simple; don’t start! Well at least don’t start until your mind is in such a great place, that the physical process of dieting becomes easy.
Starting a diet can be frightening and overwhelming, so before you begin there is a lot of prep work to do. First off you need to get your head around the diet itself, learn what foods you can eat, which ones you need to avoid and which ones you have to give up completely. Saying goodbye to foods that have been ‘there for you’ when life got stressful can be too much for some people. Even to a point where it’s difficult to get started.
Then you need to pick a start date, clear out the kitchen and bring in new healthy foods to create an environment where it’s impossible to fail. Another part of the mental preparation is to consider the social implications of what you are about to do. The thought of surviving a mee...